that's right. today's topic is friendship and i actually have some positive and negative things to say.
first off, i just wanna state some friendship facts i believe in:
1. texting does not make a friendship.
2. a friendship is best built upon mutual effort.
3. friends are necessary.
these three things are what we will address in today's blog post. i would also like to add that this is the perfect post to comment on and begin discussion. friendship is very different for each person so feedback would make for wonderful conversation, i'm sure.
anyway, we will begin with the first topic in that texting does not make a friendship. this is simple to understand and but not quite as easy to follow for some people. i admit i have trouble following it sometimes. there are exceptions. for example, a very dear friend of mine lives in the far away land of Wisconsin and works at a summer camp. therefore, i am forced to text her because all other lines of communication are not readily available.
we must also address a point which has come up in my life multiple times already this summer. "i don't text people first." this little excuse both saddens me and angers me. i don't know about you but if i think of someone and i want to know how they're doing, i generally do not hesitate in sending a text message. granted there are times i am currently busy and cannot text but i do my best to remember later. what angers me about it is the fact that a person can go for months and probably have someone in mind but because of their "texting first" policy, they refrain from a mere "hey" or "hello, i was just thinking about you and wanted to see how you were doing." heaven forbid you think about someone and care to talk to them. another interesting thing, those people that have given me that excuse in particular have other friends who they do text first. selective first texting. it is a friendship destroyer.
my second point is also pretty generally understood but rarely witnessed. when a person strives and strives to make plans so that another person enjoys themselves is great. but when that one person is the only one making that kind of effort, where is the friendship? where is the fairness? it disappears. soon, the one friend is merely riding the coat tails of planing creativity and reaping the benefits while the other person is being trampled. that other person will continue on making plans, for sure. why? because they want to see the other person and care to see the other person. eventually though, they give up. another destroyer of friendship.
lastly, i wanna make it clear how important it is to have friends. and good ones, too. the ones that follow points one and two. a text from someone who hasn't said "hello" in awhile or an offer for coffee can make someone's day. without friends the fun sort of disappears in life. and (this is a bit extreme) without friends, who would come to your funeral? ;]
i'll admit i have neglected some of my friends at some point or another. and i regret the times i decided not to ask how they were or what they were up to. it is not a great feeling to have.
as a last note, remember this: do what you can for your friends. someday they will repay the favor. you'll never forget it.
talk to you soon, everyone. go text a friend.
05 July, 2010
03 July, 2010
brand new love for little things.
good morning to all you sunshines out there.
i've been meaning to post recently but they asked me for overtime on Wednesday which pushed everything i wanted to do way back. plus, Thursday i was in the worst mood ever. so now that i have a chance, let's start posting again. :]
well, first off, my bad mood had a a lot to do with this whole epic journey. there's a certain person in my life (she wishes to remain nameless, but she will know it's her if she reads this) and it has been three years since i met them. and from the moment we really became friends, i've had nothing but grand thoughts about her. she was so much of what i thought i wanted. she had a fantastic smile and these wonderfully cute cheeks. she always told me her eyes and her hair were boring because they were just brown, but i thought her hair and her eyes were just two more spectacular features. she had a great laugh and a hilarious sneeze. we could be weird (we stand in the pool instead of swim) and we could be adorable (we had a fake proposal downtown in the park). i am fairly comfortable in saying that i love this person.
but i don't want to anymore. three years of trying and i was rejected twice this summer from a girl who really likes me back, or at least told me she did. let me be clear that i understand her reasonings for saying no. it is not that i don't believe her reasoning, i simply feel that they are not as important as she claims. i have thought about the same things and understand how i feel also. three years waiting is too much.
so, i woke up that morning just angry. didn't have any particular reason. i spent a lot of time alone that day and thankfully, it helped and i may have found a solution. too much of my actions depends on this girl. i live and breath to make her happy and to seem like the sweetest guy ever. for what? well to impress, of course. but for how long? certainly not forever.
regardless of how much and like and love this person, time changes. and so do feelings.
now, when i woke up this morning, i was unexpectedly happy. i haven't seen or really talked to this girl in days and i am in such a better mood because of it. i opened the cupboard to get out the bag of coffee grounds and i just stood there smelling the scents from the cupboard. i played with my dog a little bit and gave her her breakfast. i ate trix yogurt. this is the best morning all week because i am finally feeling free.
we must learn something from these events. it is something i've preached before: when feelings like mine are involved, you cannot be demoted to a friend right away. same goes for breakups. everyone wants to try to be friends. you can't. not while those feelings are still there. one of you is still resentful and wants the other. friends can't live like that.
i am a happy person this morning. i love the little things in my life. i am learning to be free.
have a super weekend everyone. goodbye for now.
i've been meaning to post recently but they asked me for overtime on Wednesday which pushed everything i wanted to do way back. plus, Thursday i was in the worst mood ever. so now that i have a chance, let's start posting again. :]
well, first off, my bad mood had a a lot to do with this whole epic journey. there's a certain person in my life (she wishes to remain nameless, but she will know it's her if she reads this) and it has been three years since i met them. and from the moment we really became friends, i've had nothing but grand thoughts about her. she was so much of what i thought i wanted. she had a fantastic smile and these wonderfully cute cheeks. she always told me her eyes and her hair were boring because they were just brown, but i thought her hair and her eyes were just two more spectacular features. she had a great laugh and a hilarious sneeze. we could be weird (we stand in the pool instead of swim) and we could be adorable (we had a fake proposal downtown in the park). i am fairly comfortable in saying that i love this person.
but i don't want to anymore. three years of trying and i was rejected twice this summer from a girl who really likes me back, or at least told me she did. let me be clear that i understand her reasonings for saying no. it is not that i don't believe her reasoning, i simply feel that they are not as important as she claims. i have thought about the same things and understand how i feel also. three years waiting is too much.
so, i woke up that morning just angry. didn't have any particular reason. i spent a lot of time alone that day and thankfully, it helped and i may have found a solution. too much of my actions depends on this girl. i live and breath to make her happy and to seem like the sweetest guy ever. for what? well to impress, of course. but for how long? certainly not forever.
regardless of how much and like and love this person, time changes. and so do feelings.
now, when i woke up this morning, i was unexpectedly happy. i haven't seen or really talked to this girl in days and i am in such a better mood because of it. i opened the cupboard to get out the bag of coffee grounds and i just stood there smelling the scents from the cupboard. i played with my dog a little bit and gave her her breakfast. i ate trix yogurt. this is the best morning all week because i am finally feeling free.
we must learn something from these events. it is something i've preached before: when feelings like mine are involved, you cannot be demoted to a friend right away. same goes for breakups. everyone wants to try to be friends. you can't. not while those feelings are still there. one of you is still resentful and wants the other. friends can't live like that.
i am a happy person this morning. i love the little things in my life. i am learning to be free.
have a super weekend everyone. goodbye for now.
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